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  • peoplebeproblems@midwest.socialtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    3 days ago

    TBH that’s where I am. After learning and slowly coming to terms with the fact that I was in an abusive relationship for over a decade, I’m now at the point where I want to do things she prevented me from doing.

    Like buying a sports car. I can’t really afford it, but I’m going to talk about it until I can.


  • peoplebeproblems@midwest.socialtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    3 days ago

    Imagine you have a shovel. And a mountain of shit.

    Once you start working through the mountain of shit, eventually you can see the shit that was occluded by the mountain of shit.

    It may be bigger. It may be smaller. But there’s a lot there and you have to work through it anyway.







  • In my ex’s case, she was well aware of it. Apparently she “practiced it” since she was a child because she got sick and tired of being told to “smile” and that no one looked good frowning all the time. Self-proclaimed resting bitch face model too.

    While she could take off and on this mask, it was incredibly draining to do it. But she also couldn’t not do it. It was weird.

    Unfortunately for her, she also couldn’t comprehend the emotions of other people at all, and failed to grasp why I might be upset that she cheated on me, and why I might be more than happy to cut her off from the financial security that being married to me provided.


  • I don’t use a customer service voice, but my ex, holy shit did she have a customer service voice that she did automatically. I hated it. High pitched, overly friendly, clearly lying about who she was.

    Drove me nuts. Shed use it for meeting people the first time too, and the longer she used it the friendlier they became, which reinforced it and ugh.